How to deal with confrontation...

          Arguments, unfortunately are an essential part of life.  Every one argues, whether they intend to or not.   A conflict usually consists of two parties defending their point of view...which is why I must say, I love to argue.  An argument by someone shows that they will not back down to defend what they believe in.  

           Nine times out of ten, nobody is truly going to win or really even solve the conflict...it'll just be settled or put off for another dispute. So what is the key to confrontation you might ask? 

There are three things to keep in mind when arguing...

1. KEEP THE EMOTIONS OUT OF IT.

          The problem most people experience when they argue is getting tied up in the emotional ordeal.  Too many people fall upon anger, sadness, or anxiety while in the heat of a dispute. When a emotion such as anger rises into the equation, your responses are more than likely going to sound just as flustered as you feel.  If you link sadness into the confrontation, then, tears are going to come into the equation and...well... then you just automatically lost. Leave those unnecessary emotions behind when it comes to cracking time.  

2. ADMIT WHEN YOU ARE WRONG.

          Remember Readers, you can be wrong! Factual arguments are going to have a right, wrong, or indifferent conclusion.  If you are wrong, accept it.  If the other is wrong, don't throw your hands in the air and celebrate.  Let's stay scholarly and professional with these things. When an argument has two mature people working in it, the conclusion is usually going to end up the right way.  

3. TAKE NO OFFENSE. 

          Any confrontation CAN be done without two parties ending in a angry state.  For example, the reason I wrote this blog today is due to a very heated dispute my sister and I got into today.  It was about a personal subject that we both had very diverse opinions on. In the beginning we both expressed anger and the argument just escalated. After we had enough of the yelling and profanity, we started to speak like normal human beings and "talk" it out.  In the end, we went right back to laughing and having a normal conversation.  We aren't asking for a life story when we decide to dispute, we just want to know your reasoning behind the views you express.  The key is calm, cooperative talking.  A confrontation is all about growing as a person.  If you are acceptive to debate it out, then you are acceptive to grow or learn from it.  Honestly, most of the time, you are going to benefit from the dispute...whether you are wrong OR right.  So keep your ears open and listen to your competitor. 

          And readers, remember...there is always an option to just walk away.  Yes, this may be the right choice when you find yourself in front of a confrontation with an immature defender.  If you know you can not gain from an argument, don't get involved.  When it comes to defending your beliefs and the person you are, don't back down!  This world needs more people who believe in right to stand up for themselves. 

         

                                                   Yours truly,

                                                 Amanda Rae